Good interpersonal skills require that you know the different means in which you can communicate and what sorts of responses your methods could ignite. Using passive or aggressive behavior in these relationships can have unfavorable consequences for both parties involved, which would create stumbling blocks in the path of positivity.

Being assertive helps to send your message across in a clear manner; taking the other person’s feelings into consideration. Telling people what to do rather than asking shows a lack of assertiveness and this will only cause a dent in exchanges.

Interaction is a two-way process and your attitude towards situations may differ depending on the other person. Here are ways to try assertiveness:

Manage Responses

Choose your attitude. Assertiveness is considered a balanced behavior and as such, you can choose the balance between passivity and aggressiveness. Not everyone can be assertive in every situation, especially when you’re trying to stand by your conviction firmly. There’s always the avenue to be passive or aggressive in communication, but emotional intelligence could help to balance the lever enough for you to be assertive. Try to express your thoughts and feelings in an honest, straightforward and correct way.

Be Attentive

Listen to the other person. Assertiveness involves other people’s feelings and as such, you should too. When you want to respond to them, make your thoughts known in a completely clear and honest way. Let them feel like you appreciate their thoughts and concerns and that you are giving them the space to understand your point as well. Also listen to the opinion of others, take advices that you think are good and gently reject the ones you think are not. When you listen well, you catch details that form people’s opinions or feelings and are able to deal with them accordingly in a non-aggressive manner.

Ownership and Accountability

Do not allow others to impose their orders on you if they are the kinds that go against your principles. However, whatever actions you end up taking should be one which you can own and be accountable for. You are responsible for your own actions. That’s part of being assertive – you are not blaming anyone for the failure of your results, just as much as you won’t really give someone else credit for your success. Avoid getting manipulated or offended by aggressive people.


It is the ultimate thing you can do to be assertive. Be clear. Be concise and precise. Defend your views and feelings firmly and articulately, such that you don’t come off as aggressive. Avoid getting anxious while doing this; it often affects your delivery while communicating. Confidence is the only thing that goes really well with assertiveness asides its actual nature of clarity.

Give Compliments

Rather than shooting people’s points down, give compliments if you feel they have done really well. Even if they haven’t, compliment their efforts and explain what you thought of their work, offering to help in finding solutions or making it better. Appreciate their achievements; they have worked hard to attain them. Assertiveness is an attitude towards success and that should reflect in the way you handle things. Have a fantastic knowledge of emotional grip and control, being assertive solves issues easily and effectively.


Five Tips on Building Self-Confidence

One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” ~ Arthur Ashe

Self-confidence is an attractive trait; it is trusting in one’s skills, decisions, and characteristics. A good number of people strive to attain a certain level of self-confidence. It provides an avenue for you to maximise your potentials and showcase it. Self-confidence is essential in building and developing oneself as it is needed in almost all phases of life.

Self-Confidence is your attitude and viewpoint towards happenings either past, present or projected.  It is how you see yourself, how you behave towards yourself, the belief you have in your capabilities and the level of value you’ve placed on yourself. Self-confidence is expressed in how you speak, what you say and how you respond to certain situations.

How is Self-confidence Built?

It starts with your mind and your thoughts. Understand that you are valuable and that you are more than enough. Know yourself, understand your strengths and start to apply yourself. Below are five sure-fire ways of building long lasting self-confidence.


Self-Knowledge is Key: Know thyself. Be self-aware, understand and analyse your strengths and weaknesses. Carry out deep reflections; find out what motivates you, what you fear, and your belief system. Review your attitude and responses to your career, your social life and your personal relationships.

Stay true to yourself because self-deceit is damaging to personal development. You can start writing about yourself, major highlights in your life. This helps you feel in control as you are more aware of what is happening in and around you and you can choose how to react to them.


Become Skilled: Find what you are passionate about; it might be multiple things but start with the one you are most passionate about and start to train yourself. Get professional training if necessary, practice constantly and sharpen your skills. It is okay to make mistakes during the process.

The more you practice, the better you become and this helps you be more confident. You also start to accomplish small wins which also reinforces your trust in your abilities and increases your self-confidence.  Doing something you really like makes the process fun and with each milestone you conquer, you become proud of yourself and have total belief in your abilities.

As you get better in a chosen area, start to look at other areas you are interested in and repeat the training cycle.


Motivate Yourself: Push yourself! There’s a high chance of relaxing and resting on your oars once you start to accomplish small wins and you’re getting recognised for your work. Don’t get lost in the moment, plan for the future and continually put in the work. Don’t allow complacency to find its way in, looks for ways to be better, be innovative, chart new territories and let the comfort zone be far from you.

Affirm yourself daily, say positive words to yourself, look for/at the bright side of things, be  proud of your work and let your imaginations project positive. Set goals for yourself, personal goals and career goals and plan the processes and steps you need to take to achieve those goals. Let your plans be time bound so you can have a sense of responsibility and it’s easier to motivate yourself when you have deadlines. Doing what you love is also a good way to naturally motivate yourself.


Stand Up to Your Fears: Once fear kicks in, the resultant effect can be crippling especially for someone who is still finding his/her feet. Fear can come in many forms; it can come through procrastination, through self-doubt, or through external pressure. Fear can cause a stall in progress which may have a multiplying effect on your confidence and personality.

Face your fears head on and be courageous and as written earlier, constantly affirm yourself and build up a brave attitude (brave for the right reasons). Don’t postpone facing your fears, deal with it and move on from it. Also set small short-term goals that are easy to achieve while preparing for the big ones.


Focus on the Good: Surround yourself with positives. Think positive thoughts, socialise with optimistic people, read motivational books, listen to affirmative messages. Whatever you take in is what you would dish out and as the popular saying goes “you can’t give what you don’t have”.  Watch what you feed yourself.

Engage in mentally stimulating exercises, play games, engage in sports, socialise and generally have fun. Also when you have low moments and negative thoughts are creeping in, think about your high points, your wins; both major and minor, interesting moments that brought happiness and laughter.


Dr. Joe Abah and Aliyu Giwa Honoured at the 5th Legendary Leadership Lessons Conference in Lagos

The 5th edition of the Legendary Leadership Lessons saw a number of young Nigerians desirous for change gather at Ikeja, Lagos on Saturday, July 29th, 2017. Organised by BTDT Hub and hosted by Ayo Ajibare and Moyosola Jolaolu, LLL 5.0 was deemed a success by delegates and organisers alike as lots of refreshing and inspiring insights were shared.

The conference opened with the first session on “Navigating a New Nigeria, the Role of on Air Personalities.” Panellists were quick to highlight their roles as change agents. Nigeria Info 99.3 OAP Tolulope Adeleru Balogun said “if you are not listening to an OAP that is challenging your thought process, you are tuned into the wrong station.” Nelly Kalu, also of Nigeria Info 99.3 FM reiterated that fact when she said “where there are no questions, there really is no democracy. This is where the media comes in – to help ask questions”. Sports Journalist at Smooth FM 98.1 Tega Onojaife challenged delegates to “direct their tone in the way of the change they want to see” in terms of their reporting and social media engagement. Award-winning OAP Adenike Oyetunde of Nigeria Info was also on this panel. She addressed issues of objectivity and fairness in the current Nigerian Media scene.

During the second session on “Political Reporting and Journalism, Lessons for Aspiring Media Personalities” Writer and Social Media expert at Barbaric Media; Najeeb Bello, reminded media practitioners to give politicians a fair hearing and “always verify every news before putting it up”. Smooth FM 98.1 FM OAP, Sope Martins, Deputy Editor-in-Chief; Princess Abumere and Editor; Jude Egbas also reiterated the need to stop glamorizing issues in the media especially in light of recent happenings. Princess noted that “being a Journalist is like holding up the mirror to reflect the society…as it is not all about yourself, it i’s about getting the job done”.

The last session saw Media Advisers to various Nigerian Governors share some of their experiences. DG Media and Communications Kano Government house, Salihu Tanko Yakasai noted that his journey into politics “is to change the status-quo and inspire development”. Senior Special Assistant (New Media) to the Governor of Osun State, Mustafa Ahmed Tijani challenged young people to do something if they are not satisfied with the status quo. While The Senior Special Assistant (New Media) to the Governor of Borno State, Ahmed Ningi challenged youths with political aspirations to take on more responsibility as “leadership does not just come to you.”

Of the day’s events, one that left an indelible mark in the minds of delegates was Nigeria Police Force Assistant PRO Aliyu Giwa’s thank you speech. He was presented with the ‘Young Public Servant of the Year’ Award. Aliyu expressed his gratitude amidst tears. His speech highlighted his journey into serving in the Force. He inspired the audience and noted that going the road less travelled might indeed be the road that leads to success. Also, to reward excellence in Public Service, Director General of the Bureau of Public Service Reforms, Dr. Joe Abah was presented with the ‘Public Servant and Reformer of the Year’ Award. The award was presented by Personal Finance expert Yinka Ogunnubi. Dr. Joe Abah was recognized for his work in changing the narrative in the Public Service. He shared some words of wisdom on leadership and reforms. By the time he was through with his speech, a number of the delegates had a paradigm shift in their thoughts on leadership.

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Microsoft Office Masterclass Lagos

This Microsoft Office Masterclass is an inspiring, engaging and powerfully effective one day course that offers YOU the practical means to transform YOUR life.
Microsoft Office is widely used in business and office environments on a day-to-day basis. It is used to manage office requirements in all industries. The Masterclass is an Expert Instructor-Led training delivered by Wale Micaiah, with almost 20 years’ hands-on experience. You are in safe hands!!

This Masterclass session will focus on the outlined areas:
MS Excel 2010 (data tracking, writing formulas to perform calculations on data and presenting data using professional charts. You will become excellent at navigating MS excel worksheets).
MS PowerPoint 2010 (You will learn how to create, view, and present slide shows that combine text, shapes, pictures, graphs and charts).
MS Outlook 2010 (Understanding business and personal e-mail management tools).
MS Word 2010 (You will learn how to produce documents using MS word).

Recent Graduates (employed or job-hunting), and
Young Professionals

The training will help you gain the necessary skills demanded by employers as well as assist you progress in your career.
The Masterclass will help:
Improve YOUR Transferable Skills
Increase YOUR Confidence
Help you become a Well-Rounded Professional, and
Stand YOU out from the Crowd

Course Fee: N5,000 (Includes refreshments, course materials and a Certificate). Group discounts available.
Account Details: UBA, 1019742866, Ambidextrous Consult Nig Ltd
Please send your name/email address to once payment is made.

See you on 22nd April 2017 in Lagos!!!


Wale Micaiah is an Information System Professional with almost 20 years’ hands-on experience in the IT Industry. He has a generational hands-on experience of Microsoft Office packages starting from Office95 to the latest Microsoft Office, having been able to navigate each Microsoft release with ease, he is able to lead trainees through training sessions with ease.

Wale has over 15 professional certifications that cuts across different aspects of IT, Risk, Audit and Business Process. He makes use of and trains regularly on the use of Microsoft Office as an office productivity tool. You are in safe hands with Wale!!

BTDT Hub Concludes Hugely Successful Microsoft Office Masterclass

On the 22nd of April, the Microsoft Office Masterclass was held. It was facilitated by Wale Micaiah, an information systems professional with experience in the IT industry spanning nearly 2 decades. This event was organised by the social initiative, BTDT Hub.

The Masterclass was a hands-on practical class which involved every attendee getting busy on their computers. The sold-out class involved practical learning for the beginner in Microsoft Word, Microsoft Power point, Microsoft Excel and Outlook. Automation, customisation, reporting, data tracking, modifying texts and objects were some of the areas which the facilitator delved into.

This Masterclass was birthed from research which found that HR Managers of organisations are less likely to hire employees who are unable to make good use of the Microsoft Office packages.

Feedback from the individuals who attended was brilliant as those who had a background in Microsoft Office suite learnt how to manoeuvre through the different packages better whilst the real beginners were able to go home knowing how to use each package.

If you missed this one, do not be too alarmed. There will be upcoming events in the nearest future. Keep your eyes peeled by getting involved in the conversation. Follow the initiative on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: @BTDTHub.

See you at the next one!

Tips on Personal Branding

Have you ever thought about your personal brand? How you present yourself and how people describe you? You should.

Your brand is a perception maintained by someone other than you. The points explained briefly below will help you reflect on your personal brand, and how to excellently brand yourself.

What you need to do

To improve your Personal brand, you need to carefully cultivate your personal image. This is very important. You need to constantly glorify and amplify the positives about yourself (your brand). In framing your brand, authenticity is key. People are attracted to genuine people. So you have to be real, and be yourself. Before posting that next tweet or Facebook post, you should consider your personal brand and how people might perceive you.

To improve your brand, your image, vision, and values must align. And it is not just about cultivating a brand, you must be able to communicate and articulate this.  You can only articulate or market a brand you know excellently. Thus, it is important to know yourself.

You should also consider creating a LinkedIn profile and start paying attention to your digital footprint (Google, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat etc.). It is advisable to perform a SWOT analysis of yourself. Once this is done, you need to capitalise on your strengths, cover your weaknesses, identify your opportunities and look out for threats.


Benefits of Personal Branding

Investing in your personal brand is one of the smartest decisions you will ever make. Success comes from self-packaging and self-branding.

Importantly, through personal branding you can significantly increase your success in the business world and in your career.

Personal branding is not an option, it is a requirement if you want to STAND OUT.

Remember, if you don’t define yourself, others will.

Career and Personal Development Masterclass Delivered by Tunji Andrews (Lagos)

“People pay for your brand and not your skill.”
This was one of the boldest statements made at the Master class which was organised by U.K. based Been there & Done that Ltd. The master class was both intimate and rewarding as the room which could only hold 30 attendees was filled to capacity. The personal and career development class was geared towards transforming lives in the areas of:
• Managing your career
• Creating a Personal Development Plan
• Branding and Projecting Yourself
• Improving Critical Thinking and Problem Solving
• Time Management

Perhaps one of the best things about the master class was how each pointer was intertwined. Good career management from the onset requires deep critical thinking, neither can function without the other. Once thinking has occurred well enough, it is required that said persons project themselves effectively to build a personal brand which in turn cannot be effective if they have not created a personal development plan. Equally, time management is a thread, where perfected, all the other key aspects follow.
Each pointer was thoroughly delved into leaving no stones unturned as the interactive session also served to give responses where the attendees were unclear. Unfortunately, if you didn’t get to attend the master class, you missed out on quite a number of major keys. Below is a quick summary of the class.

“Your career is your journey through life, learning and work.”
Understanding your key strengths and weaknesses are instrumental to managing your career because first, you have to identify your career. Mr Andrews gave several examples of how one could identify their core strengths. Some of them included speaking to family and friends, volunteering, reading articles, company websites and blogs, industry magazines; speaking to friends and colleagues in other companies, departments or roles or speaking to a career coach.

For example, if you are a planner, your ideal job role could be that of a manager effectively leading project team. That’s the dream but it isn’t your reality, how do you then get there from where you currently are? The answer, Problem solving!

So, you’ve identified where your strengths lie and identified what job role is well suited to those strengths… critical thinking is essential for the next step you will take in your career. In this stage, brainstorming is essential. Do you have mentors you can bounce ideas off of? Do you have a personal problem solving team different from your designated team at work? These are key aspects to look at!

“The more you think of complex problems, you flex your cognitive muscles.”
He then moved on to building a personal brand. On this topic, he spoke of the essence of building an online social presence. Twitter, he said was a good place for those who wanted to become thought leaders in their field as a thought leader himself in Macroeconomics who boasts some over 13,000 followers on Twitter. He however warned to stay in your lane as only topics on which a person was highly informed should one express opinion. These twitter streets do not play!

“In growing your brand, be ready to work for free”
Free labour as he explained was a lack of monetary gain but not necessarily, a lack of alternative gains. Although pecuniary gain might not be present, the exposure/experience value cannot be quantified. He was also careful to add that one had to choose very carefully how they opted to go about it as if those benefits were not derived, then it would indeed be free.

“Your phone’s calendar is your friend”
Time management was something Mr Tunji Andrews expressed was still a struggle. Well, it helped to know that the business development expert was human after all. However, he mentioned enlisting help from friends, his wife and his smart phone. To-do lists with timelines, he added were also very helpful in dealing with time management.
In the end, it was a unanimous decision that the class had been a good investment for all who attended. He ended with a few bonus tips on creating an award winning CV. “It’s the first time the employer gets to meet you, make it count”, he added. It was a great success for all present and everyone got to go home with the material used during the workshop as well as a certificate.

The next masterclass is a Microsoft Office Workshop due to hold in Lagos 22nd April, 2017 equipping all attendees with Beginners and Intermediate mastery of the Ms Office suite.

For more details on masterclasses coming up, follow @beenthere2025 on Twitter and Instagram.

Kayode Ogundamisi, Olusegun Ezekiel, And Others At Leadership Conference Targeted At Young Africans In The UK

BeenThere and DoneThat Ltd organised a second leadership conference last month (24th October 2015) in Nottingham, UK. The theme of the conference was Legendary Leadership Lessons (2).  Just like the first, the purpose of the conference was to inspire, motivate and support young Africans who are or who wish to be in positions of leadership to learn about key leadership skills. Such skills include integrity, honesty, determination, courage, commitment, passion, confidence, goal-setting and positivity.

The conference, hosted by Temi Ilori, served as an arena for knowledge exchange, debate and discussion among emerging young African leaders. The attendance of senior citizens was hugely welcomed as conference delegates asserted that they benefited from their elderly counsel during the interactive sessions.

Olusegun Ezekiel and Kayode Ogundamisi were keynote speakers at the conference. Olusegun spoke about the Implication of Political Leadership on the Economic Development of Africa while Kayode focused on Politics and Journalism, Lessons from the Last Decade and Lessons for Future Leaders.

Other Distinguished Speakers such as Karo Orovboni spoke on Becoming Agents of Change, Sola Afolabi on the Importance of Education and Self-Development, Kelechi Anyikude (Leadership: Share the Vision), karibiba Amachree (Climbing the Ladder of Success), Naomi Simon (Beyond the Rhetoric of Pan-Africanism, how we can Make Impact), Rene Germain (Facing the Future), Taiwo Gisanrin (Leadership Values for Next Generation Leaders), Dipo Awojide (The Journey from Failure to Success), Dr. Jaliyyah Bello (Gender Equality in Nigeria, how we can Make Progress) and Bisola Babalola on Academic Excellence and Leadership Tips for Young People.

Staying true to our core mission of promoting youth development, we shall be hosting a third leadership conference in Nigeria in the coming months.

Career and Personal Development Masterclass (Lagos)

We believe Nigerian youths can achieve so much more if given the opportunity and support. We believe their performance can be enhanced, and their personal and professional development accelerated. We believe Nigerian youths and young professionals can deliver optimal results and achieve their career goals.

 To assist in achieving these, we have put together a Personal and Professional Development Masterclass themed ‘Unleashing the Leader in YOU.’
This Masterclass session will focus on the outlined areas: Managing YOUR Career, Creating a Winning CV for YOUR next job, Creating a Personal Development Plan, Branding and Projecting Yourself, Improving Critical Thinking and Problem Solving, and Time Management (Bonus Session).
Course Fee: N5,000 (Includes refreshments, course materials and a certificate).

Account Details: UBA, 1019742866, Ambidextrous Consult Nig Ltd

Please send your name/email address to once payment has been made


Date: 25th February 2017
Venue: The Vantage Hub, Allen Avenue, Ikeja, Lagos.


BeenThere & DoneThat Ltd had its inaugural leadership conference themed LEGENDARY LEADERSHIP LESSONS on Saturday 4th July 2015 in London.

The purpose of the conference was to encourage and support young people who are or who wish to be in positions of leadership to learn about and develop key leadership skills and qualities such as integrity, honesty, determination, courage, commitment, passion, confidence, goal-setting and positivity.

Invited speakers shared lessons in a bid to motivate and inspire conference delegates. The keynote Speaker was Shola Ajani, a Personal and Organisational Development Consultant, Speaker, Coach and Mentor. He spoke on how young people can unleash their Inner Potentials.

Other distinguished speakers included Imad Mesdoua, who spoke on “Exploring Your Possibilities,” Jason Jackson (Lessons for Future Leaders), Kelechi Anyikude (Leadership: Share the Vision), Khafi Kareem (Yes We Can), Opeyemi Soile (The Building Blocks of Leadership), Sheun David-Onamusi (Climbing the Ladder of Success), Sinead Banful (Lead Yourself), Bisola Babalola (Reaching for the Stars), and Ayo Sogunro who spoke on “Facing the Future.”

A Collection of Success Stories from Young African Leaders and Entrepreneurs

It has been a long time coming, but the BTDT Africa book titled “Been There & Done That: A Collection of Success Stories from Young African Leaders and Entrepreneurs” is finally here. This book will now be distributed (free of charge) to students across tertiary institutions in the UK and in Nigeria.

Mr Laolu Akande (Senior Special Assistant, Media and Publicity to Professor Yemi Osinbajo, Vice President of Nigeria) comments that “Although these stories represent only a small sample of successful young Nigerians and British-Nigerians, these stories will inspire and motivate the next generation of African leaders and entrepreneurs.”

Please feel free to download this book via and share with your contacts.

A very big THANK YOU to everyone that contributed to this project. We deeply appreciate.